Relationship question could you help?

[Hannah_Lou]

Ok i will be brief about it. I have a friend who is really nice to me, we used to go to school together but now we dont and we only speak online. i have watched him go through alot of relationships through the past months and he has always came to me for support, which i have given him. Recently he has been confused about his sexuality and i have been there for him through that too. I like him but not as in " i would go out with him" sorta way. I think he is trying to lead me onto that but i dont want to do this i only want to be really good friends. Anyway of telling him nicely just no?

Any answeres welcome cos i am desperate

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[BarbT]

Hannah there doesn't seem to be a nice way to say no does there! But if that is honestly how you feel, you need to be true to yourself (and him) and hope that your friend will understand and respect your honesty.

[Juliet10]

I would also add that you need to make sure you're not mis-reading the signals first. Otherwise it'll be you that ends up getting hurt and you may lose a friend.

Michelle

xx

[Hannah_Lou]

Yeh thanx guys. i have thought most of this through but some things i cant get through. Other things stand in the way like my past relationships that i cant get over what happened to me in them. i got hurt in them too, i dont want to happen again but if i dont try i may never be with someone?

[img]frown.gif[/img] i hate these kind of complicated things

Oh i forgot to add, after i had posted this on here, about 2 hours later he came online and said he fancied me like mad. I wish i wasnt soo nice lol

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[DarrensPassion]

Hannah, my own daughter has been through a very similar situation with one of her (boy)friends. If he is confused about his sexuality then I would suggest that you are there for him in terms of support as a close friend but until he realises and comes to terms with his sexuality I think it would be difficult to start a relationship with him under these conditions. It would be a shame to ruin a good friendship if he tries to force this issue with you and it's not fair to you either until he is comfortable with his sexuality. Just try to talk to him about this issue maybe and you might help him to understand where he stands.

Janie xx

[Hannah_Lou]

Thanx Janie, i am still there for him. He asked me out but i really dont think i can do it. He lives too far away from me, we dont go to the same school and ultimately, from what i have saw over the past few months, i dont think i can trust him in a relationship cos i would never see him [img]frown.gif[/img] i find it sad that i cant trust him, cos i want to. I asked him if i could sleep on it, i have and now i think i will have to tell him. Its a damn shame there isnt a nice way to say no

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[Cazzer]

Tell him you value your friendship too much to ruin it with a failed relationship.

That's what my best friend Pete an i used to tell people when they asked why we weren't an item.

[Hannah_Lou]

Aww Thanx Caz. It is all soo confusing, i feel like i am under pressure, knowing my luck i will be with him this time next week [img]frown.gif[/img]

[Julius77]

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[Wiliams]

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